Taryn Pike. That's who "T" was when I met her. We were sophomores in college and we lived in the same
sweet Suite in Petrik Hall at good ol' Bellarmine College. She was a cheerleader (WAS) and I was a basketball player. And, from what I hear she was a darn good cheerleader. She was a competitive gymnast growing up actually. She wasn't cheering anymore when we met (maybe that's why became such good friends...KIDDING). Anyhow, Taryn and I quickly became friends. We lived in a co-ed dorm at a Catholic college. Oh yes. Those were the days :) I played basketball and in case you didn't know, basketball players like to have fun :)
Anyhow, Taryn and I TOTALLY hit if off. Partying turned into movie nights, which turned into heart to hearts, which turned into shopping sprees at TJMaxx, which turned to late night snacks of foods we swore to each other we wouldn't eat, which turned into pretty much being together all the time.
College Days unfortunately had to end and we had to grow up. We graduated from Bellarmine University and then...Taryn was adventurous. She went to Cali for an acting workshop. And, I moved to Owensboro, Kentucky. What in the HECK was I thinkin'? I started graduate school because I didn't really know what I wanted to do with my life (and I coached basketball at Brescia University). She came home, was madly in love with Ricky, and they got engaged. I had met Todd, but it was still "new" and I was all "I will NEVER live in Owensboro, Kentucky for the rest of my life".
Haha...God was laughing at me. Look where that got me?
Anyhow, T and Ricky got married, I was her Maid of Honor and she really wanted me to catch her bouquet. I didn't (well, maybe I did, but seriously I was totally in denial about this whole "if I marry Todd I'm realllly going to have to live in Owensboro" deal). Actually, the morning AFTER her wedding I had to leave Louisville at like 6am to drive to Owensboro to take my last final of my Master's program ever. And, it took me 45 freaking minutes to complete it. I was LIVID. My professor told me "it wouldn't be fair to let me take the final before anyone else.". Whatever.
Meanwhile, Todd and were getting more serious, and more serious. T was getting more serious about wanting a baby. I got engaged, call her while she's vacationing in Hawaii, and she does cartwheels on the beach for me :) She gets prego and I celebrate with a glass of wine for her!
She's then my co-Matron of Honor:
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| Audrey and Taryn (she's 5 months prego) |
And, then she has Ethan. What a doll. OMG. Dark eyes, dark hair. Model Baby. And, smart too! I actually remember her visiting my house and taking a shower. She said, "Ethan will be fine, here are his diapers and stuff". I know that I looked at her with a blank star and she knew what was coming before I could say it. "Taryn, I can't change poopy diapers. I may get sick". She laughed at me with that..."just wait" sarcasm.
Anyhow, she got prego again VERY quickly. I got prego with Ty (she, again, did cartwheels for me I think). And then came Aiden...11 months AFTER Ethan. Yes, she's SUPER-MOM. Taryn went to the hospital with Aiden in the middle of a snow-storm. It was TERRIBLE weather (they even closed downthe interstate!). I was getting labor update texts from her and from Ricky, and my pregnant, exhausted self was so happy when she called me late that night. I remember laying on the couch and she was giving me all the details of what was going on and I told her before we got off the phone to "call me or text me as soon as he gets here...I don't care what time it is". I remember looking at my phone in the middle of the night and there was nothing. I woke up to go to work, and there was nothing. Hmmm....
I called Ricky. No answer.
I texted "??????????????????"
Nothing.
I was seriously about to drive myself crazy at work. I was blaming it on cell phone service sucking due to the weather. Phone lines and towers had ice damage so that must've been it. I thought.
My work closed early that day, and Todd picked me up. He knew I was worried about Taryn so we both started calling from our phones. Ricky ended up calling me back and I knew in the sound of his voice that something was wrong. The phone was cutting up really bad, but I heard "he's okay, but he has Apert's Syndrome". My heart immediately felt like it weighted 500 pounds. I didn't know what Apert's was, but I was devastated. I didn't want Ricky to know I was crying, but I heard his voice crack and I lost it. I asked how Taryn was, and he said she was doing great and that she was going to call me soon. The phone disconnected due to bad service. Aperts? What is that? Todd and I got home and I went to the computer to check what it was. It wasn't long after that Taryn called me. God, that girl is so strong.
She was afraid to tell me because she didn't want me to worry about MY baby. She didn't want to get me upset or for me to question the health of Ty even more than the normal pregnant mother does.
I cannot imagine the emotions that she felt that day. She has told me Aiden's birth story over, and over. How she was so numb and it was so surreal that they actually had a baby with a condition that even some of the medical staff hadn't even seen before. Yet, she was worried about MY feelings and ME getting so worked up over MY baby. That's T though...always thinking of others and always wanting everyone else to feel good. God I'm lucky to have her as my friend, but seriously. There was no need at all for her to think of me when her heart was just ripped to shreds.
Check out their version of the birth story:
Super-Aiden
Luckily, I was able to visit Aiden on day 5 in the NICU in Louisville. Taryn and Ricky prepped me for what I was going to see (a room full of tiny, tiny babies literally fighting for life). Ricky and I talked before I even saw Taryn and all he kept telling me was how strong Taryn had been. I saw Taryn and of course, I immediately started crying. I wanted to hold it together so bad, but I couldn't. My heart was broken for her. But when I saw Aiden, I didn't see the little boy who looked different. I saw Taryn and Ricky's baby. I saw Ethan's baby brother. I saw the little boy who they'd prayed for and that T and I JUST KNEW would be best friends because their Mama's are.
Taryn gently held his hands and showed me where it looked like a mitten made of skin was covering his toes and fingers. She calmly told me in medical terms that I couldn't hardly pronounce, what the next steps were for Aiden. She was so confident and "together". As usual.
Taryn has a
blog that is so incredible. She posts funny stories of what her kids have done. She posts pictures of her adorable little boys and her family. And, she keeps it real. She discusses her real life struggle to keep it together, emotionally, for herself. Taryn is an awesome writer and public speaker and through this blog, she has shared her highs and lows. And, I honestly can say that now, she is the happiest that I have ever seen her. Her plans are to write a book to educate people on Apert's syndrome so other Mom's won't be shocked like her. She wants to tell everyone who will ever be in her shoes one day that "it will be okay" because just look at her family!
Aiden is absolutely THE most precious little boy ever. He literally lights up any room he walks into. His belly laughs and smile seriously make your heart melt. I think he gets that from his Mama! He truly is their
Little Fire !
Since babyhood began in our lives we've been able to get the boys together a few times (but not nearly enough) over the last several years.
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| Ty, T's Ethan, Aiden, and Ethan (my nephew) |
Living 2 hours away with 4 kids under 3 makes get togethers challenging sometimes. But, when we are together it's absolutely awesome. Honestly, at this age, it's even more awesome when the Daddy's have the boys and T and I get to do some Mama stuff like TJMaxx trips and sit poolside.
In the next few months Taryn and her boys will be heading to Austin, TX for hopefully a no-more-than 5 year move. I'm so happy that everythng is falling into place for them there. However, I'm sad that our 2 hour drive to see each other will be turning into a 2.5 hour plane ride. I'm booking my first trip there for January as soon as they close on their house...and Mama's going alone.
I've been coaching T on how to talk "Texas" cause she is a Northern Kentucky girl. NK accents are kind of like Michigan accents. She doesn't say even say "ya'll!"...yet!
Watch out Austin, Audrey and Taryn (omg and we're both going to be doing our "year long" 30th bday celebration for ourselves!) are back. Neither of us are pregnant (for now) and we may just have to check out this college town to see how we can hang these days. Yee-haw!